Pain: The Unsung Hero

Though there is nothing small about the pain a human being faces, but from where I'm looking now, I feel physically painful situations are actually more easier to handle than mentally painful situations. The harsh truth is that pain is the first step or the beginning of the spiritual journey. It is a call from the universe to wake up to the God within.

It starts off with being put in physically painful situations, over and over again until we feel the need to ask for help from something that is beyond us.

I think, the moment we decide to ask for help, is the moment we decide to, little by little, let go of the things that are no longer within our control.

We start to take stock of what is within control and do something about it. That mostly entails making changes within ourselves, to help make the situation a little better. This can look like removing or disconnecting ourselves from people, places, situations, to be able to do what is good for the self, I, me. It’s not easy, but with practice we gradually notice how much the outside situations calm down. I believe, for each person, its a different process or path, personalised according to their life situations.

Once we see the outside getting calmer, we strive harder to bring more peace and harmony into our lives, little by little the pain turns inwards, and, at one point we realise that, the chaos that was once outside, has now shifted inside. While the outside circumstances are now more relaxed and manageable, the storm inside starts to rage. The mind starts to take over, showing up as loneliness, guilt, loss, fear, anger, helplessness, monotony etc. We then realise it’s time to address the actual demons that live within us.

This is the most painful part of the journey, because as our focus turns inwards we find pieces of ourselves we never knew we had, we never want to own, we never want to accept and most definitely don’t want others to know these things about us and because of this we choose to deal with this pain all on our own. This, I feel, is the longest journey one ever takes in their life time. Facing, accepting, adjusting and changing the parts of us, we discover on a day to day basis.

The imaginative mind adds to this by bringing up memories and feelings that we once suppressed or that we once had already dealt with. It tries to confuse and drive us back down the old road we have already come from. The fight to stay centred and grounded takes immense strength and self awareness. The ability to read between the lines or see beyond the emotions is the only thing that can save us from drowning, till finally, when we learn to read between the lines and get a grip of the emotions, then the monotony, patience and doubts creep in.

It feels never ending, there’s always something or the other, some more, some less painful, but, the pain never stops.

It acts as a constant reminder that there is something more that is yet to be healed and mastered.

Yes, pain teaches us mastery over our emotions, thoughts and reactions. Each area of pain will keep showing up until we have mastered it enough that it no longer controls or affects our lives and we can see it for what it is and respectfully make peace with it.

I wonder if its possible to never feel pain?

But if we never feel pain does it mean we have nothing left to learn from this life?

Can, being happy always, teach us anything new?

Can being happy make us grow into evolved beings?

If we were always happy could we understand and share in another’s pain?

Would we be helpful or self-centred?

Sharing in another’s pain means dipping into their pain also, could we do that?

Does this mean that pain is the only thing that makes us human and eternal happiness is just a myth, a carrot dangling in-front of us to make us face the various phases and stages of pain and grow through them?

Maybe thats why happy and sad coexist, because one is nothing without the other.

Every stage if successfully cleared does bring with it calm, peace and happiness until the next stage of growth is met. Each stage unlocks a new power within us bringing us closer to the realisation of the god within and its ability to create a life that, that God can imagine for itself.

I think when a human being awakens he realises that this reality is just a video game simulation and the self is the main character. But when the inner God awakens he realises that the mind is the video game simulation and thought is the main character. Shift a thought and reality shifts, however big or small the impact is.

Pain is like the unsung hero. No amount of understanding or explanation can make it easy and acceptable or loveable or even likeable. When you feeling it you feeling it and it just sucks, until you push through and come out onto the other side and then look back and realise who it has made you evolve into.