Love & Divine Love

Love is just love, a feeling of utmost joy, comfort, safety, calm, peace and it always starts with the self, what I want, what I like, what I love. But for need for better understanding we humans have put this feeling into a word, and, further gave it categories based on the intensity of the expression of love. The lesser is called like, the higher is called love. I like people, I dont like people, I love you I dont love you. Feelings can only be shared and never given to anyone. Hence love sits within the individual and can only be felt within him on the inside and so it is always the need of the self projected outside, the degree to which I can love myself is the degree to which I can love another and the degree to which I can understand and help myself, I can understand and help another. I dont love myself so I want you to love me in the way that I feel better about myself only then I can reciprocate or maybe even not, to the giver, depending on my degree of narcissism, which again is a quality every human possess...everything is the absence or the different degree of the same feeling of joy.

Many relationships suffer because of the expression of love. We express our feelings in the way we want to, but, the intention is for the other to understand what we are feeling. Hence, a misalignment of intention and action. And we get mad when they don't, without noticing the communication gap. Now some might say "but this is who I am". All excuses apart when we decide to team up with someone to meet some need of ours, the effort of that partnership needs to be shared in every aspect of the relationship, emotional, physical, mental.

I think the reason why we get into relationship is because we dont want to be alone or we need someone to help with our responsibilities or to be there when we get old or even because we love that person and what them in our lives etc...in which case, I believe we have to acknowledge that the effort has to be equal, also that each person individually has a choice, and a right to execute that choice however calm or drastically, and we need to see, acknowledge and respect that choice. The most fulfilling are those relationships where the effort, respect and goals are mutual, where both partners understand how to flow in energy the actions speak louder than words and the words give power to the actions.

"But this is how I am I tried to change but I can't". Ask yourself are you justified in that behaviour? Is the other person justified in their reaction? Love is never about another person, no matter how much we want to project it that way, what ever we do in this emotion we do it for our selves, and the need can arise out of fear, loneliness, anger, deciet, emotional desire, physical desire etc. If we can muster the courage to see past our need or really look at the root of it we can heal the way we love our selves, by accepting our own truth, and we can heal the way we project that love on to the outside world.

I realised that no matter what role I played in the relationships and not matter how much I adjusted, at the end of it all the feeling, the need and the desire was still empty and unfulfilled, so there was no point in hiding my truth. After lying to myself a million times, I also realised that no person could hold a fake nature for too long, it always starts to feel suffocating, revealing the true nature. Hence, the best bet is to come clean right from the start no matter how pressurised one feels. Because truth is, the first few days of a relationship does set the tone of emotions and intentions for the future. When I realised this truth it forced me to answer the above questions about what I wanted to feel in a relationship, what I needed form it, did I really need one or not and how I wanted it to fulfil my desires, and then I started to live my truth no matter how frightening or embarrassing it was in the beginning. Owning and accepting who I am and what I want in life as a whole and eventually a partnership.

Now Im not saying I know it all and my life is perfect, but this is the download I got on love that helped me heal from the person I used to be into the person I am today. I do continue to make bad decisions now and then but I have also learnt to take the lessons and be a better version than I was the pervious day. This understanding helped me see and acknowledge the love I am within myself and also in the things I once liked and even didn't like, when we reach this place where we can love what we once hated, we crack open our higher heart space, the channel to Divine Love. The simple act of accepting and being and learning little by little every day helped me open my heart space tremendously to more divine love, abundance and blessings in my everyday. No matter how bad it gets Im still good and I'm still here and I'm still pushing through and I'm still blessed, a roof over my head and all my needs met, compared to the many others in pain and suffering at this time.

The journey of love is a challenge, of how kind you can be in the most difficult situations. As simple as we might think it is, the experience of this feeling can only be felt by being...kindness.

Do not underestimate the ripples of kindness. It will remember you even when you forget.